Do you ever feel that even though your life seems “perfect” on paper, there’s still something missing?
Or perhaps the opposite: no matter what you do, your life never feels perfect or happy.
Your partner doesn’t “get” you.
The whole world seems to have found their soul mate, except you. And you wonder if it’s because you’re not as young / attractive / interesting as others.
Maybe you’re bored or restless at work because you’re not doing what really speaks to your soul, but you feel stuck where you’re at for one reason or another.
Or you’re often worried about what others think about you and it interferes with your peace of mind.
You don’t feel good enough for anyone. Not good enough for your boss. Not your partner. Not your friends or family.
You’re always second-guessing yourself.
Looking to others for advice and approval.
And feeling unsure about your decisions anyway.
You don’t know what makes you happy anymore.
And sometimes, you want to run far away from your life.
I can relate.
Because 15 years ago, I felt the same exact way.
Even though at the time, I thought I had everything I needed to be happy.
I was so very mistaken.
It was my 25th wedding anniversary, and my husband (a respected surgeon) and I were celebrating it at a family wedding one summer.
I should have felt on top of the world that day.
I had everything society tells us we human beings need for a happy and fulfilling life: married to a doctor, vacation homes, jewelry, expensive cars, healthy children, a good, secure job.
I could go anywhere I wanted and buy almost anything my heart desired.
“My God,” I thought that night. “I’m the luckiest person in the world. So why is there something that’s still gnawing at me? Why is there still something missing?”
Then, like a ticker tape across my mind, I saw the words:
“How much longer do I have to do this?”
Because it was at that moment that I realized the picture of perfection I had carefully constructed as my life wasn’t my own.
It wasn’t the REAL ME.
The real me enjoyed my material wealth, but it didn’t define me. I was more than that!
The real me needed more than what was in my husband’s world.
The real me had a connection to something greater, something far more meaningful to me that I wasn’t even acknowledging in my everyday life.
This was the problem: I had spent decades chasing everyone else’s idea of happiness.
I became what my parents, society, my children, my husband, and my friends wanted me to be, but it wasn’t ALL I really was.
And that fateful day, my soul could no longer abide with this façade I had so carefully nurtured all those years in order to fit in.
I knew I had to change the course of my entire life — and I did.
It was the scariest thing I’d ever done. But once I took that courageous step, the universe lay at my feet and ushered in opportunities beyond my imagination.
What I realized through that experience is that if you don’t have this ONE THING, you don’t have anything.
So what is this one thing?
Is it more money, more fame, better health, or greater accomplishments? No.
Lack of self love isn’t always obvious.
In my case, I didn’t give self love a second thought for years. In fact, if you had asked me I would have said,“Of course I love myself!”
I was absorbed with advancing in my career as a nurse (even though I had forgotten that I had been ordained as a Spiritualist Minister when I was younger), raising my children and ticking off the boxes of what I “thought” made a fulfilling life.
I had ignored my other God-given gifts. I had literally forgotten the spiritual side of me.
My lack of self love led me to a lifetime of people-pleasing and conforming myself to others’ expectations.
I was afraid to feel what I felt or want what I wanted, because I had been afraid of disappointing everyone in my life…except myself.
You know that saying, “Until you can love yourself, no one else can love you”?
It turns out that is one of the most profound statements you’ll ever hear in your life. Because it’s true! But most people hear that and sort of glaze over because there’s a big misconception about what self love really is.
It’s not narcissism or self-indulgence. It’s not being selfish, either.
Self love is loving those parts of yourself that you have always believed to be unlovable.
Self love is the willingness and fortitude to put into action what is in alignment with the desires of your heart.
It is knowing at any moment what it is you are feeling so that you know what you want and can express it without guilt, remorse or shame.
While that sounds simple, it’s not — not for most people.
What’s more, most of us have certain psychological “anchors” that tie us down and keep us from loving ourselves.
The truth is, that when you have self love, you feel good enough, no matter what.
You feel that you belong and that you have what you need to be happy.
That means you know you have the right love, the right work, and the right community of friends.
You may be thinking, “That’s all well and good, but what do I need to do to have genuine self love?”
I’m glad you asked.
True love is allowing someone to be exactly as they are. Self love is no different. When I made the decision to be true to myself — and to love myself as I am — I was finally able to be completely free and content.
Since then, I spent years perfecting a system that will help you develop the kind of self love that can get you everything your heart desires: a soul mate, a fulfilling career and a beautiful life.
I integrated this system into my practice, and today I have helped thousands of clients find their voice, find their purpose, passion, happiness and love — through self love.
I call this system Self Love For True Love, and I’ve put it all together in one powerful program that includes an eBook and accompanying audio.
Self Love For True Love shows you how to take the 7 specific steps for practicing self love and gaining confidence and self-esteem.
You’ll learn what’s been holding you back from truly loving yourself, and how to let go of those patterns of thought and behavior, so you can step into a way of being that feels freer and more fulfilling.
You’ll learn how to use the Law of Attraction to get more of what you want in love, instead of attracting the same relationship or type of partner over and over (which is easy to do if you’re not conscious of what you’re doing).
The person you were always meant to love finds you and is drawn to you, because you beam confidence and light and love.
In Self Love For True Love, you’ll also get heart-centered exercises, meditations and affirmations that will help you get crystal clear about who you really are and what you really want out of life and love. You’ll learn exactly how to say “yes” to the situations that are good for you and say “no” to those that aren’t, without guilt or regret.Start on your journey to self love
In other words, when you develop self love, you’ll have everything your heart and soul have always wanted. You’ll feel loved, like you belong, and that fulfillment and contentment are no longer fleeting concepts.
So — if you’re in a place in your life where no matter what you do, you’re always struggling with self-doubt, you need to develop self love.
If you are letting fear keep you stuck and unable to make needed changes…SELF LOVE is the answer.
If no matter what you buy or how much money you make, you still feel there’s something missing…SELF LOVE is the answer.
That’s because only self love can fill the void in your life.
It’s the only thing that will heal the deep loneliness, insecurity and inadequacy you may be feeling right now.
And in my program, Self Love For True Love I will take your hand and show you how!
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