What if I told you there’s one action you can do right now—and every day—that will dramatically make you happier?
And not just a tiny bit happier, but a whole lot, shout-it-from-the-rooftops happy?
And what if you could do this one thing right where you are—without needing to go anywhere, spend any money, or spend years working through your “stuff”?
Sounds too good to be true?
Well, the truth is that I have seen this one thing create unbelievable transformation in myself and in thousands of people I’ve worked with.
This thing is as close to a magic bullet if there ever was one.
Okay, okay, you’re gasping to know.
It’s something you may be tempted to wave away at first. You may grumble. You may not like me. But you will really, really like yourself when you do it. Ready?
Yes, it’s the F word.
A really, really good one. Because even though you may drag your feet on it at first, forgiveness is going to create such positive changes in your life that you’ll GLADLY forgive everyone.
The most positive change you’ll see is that you’ll wake up feeling incredibly happy. And, here’s the kicker—you’ll STAY happy, no matter what’s happening.
Forgiveness is a super high-vibrational energy than can heal almost everything.
Wait, what? High vibration?
What I mean by that is that everything is energy, including emotions.
Feelings like blame, shame, and despair are way down on the vibrational scale. On the other hand, love and forgiveness are way, way up there.
Ever notice how much better you feel when you’re around someone who is upbeat and happy? That person is literally vibrating at a higher frequency, and they actually lift you UP by their very presence.
Likewise, being around a person who complains all the time can really bring you down.
Feelings are contagious—the good and the bad. And they impact your overall sense of wellbeing and happiness.
When you’re in a low vibration, things don’t heal—including your heart, your relationships, and your health. But when you shift into a high vibration, things heal—even where there seemed to be no hope.
And things heal by magic, astonishing even yourself.
My sister and I had never been particularly close. I was born when she was almost a teenager, so the age gap didn’t help.
But things didn’t get really tense between us until much later. We had a disagreement that resulted in an awkward, painful silence.
Then my mom moved out of our childhood home, and we had to go help. I dreaded the day, and sure enough the tension between my sister and me was palpable. We were avoiding each other in the house, and I just couldn’t bear it any longer.
So I went out to my car and took a breather. I didn’t tell anyone what I was doing. But here’s what I did:
I remembered Ho‘oponopono, a Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness. It consists of saying just four simple phrases to yourself while picturing the person you’re having the difficulty with.
So I decided to practice this toward my sister, even though she had no clue what was going on. As I sat in the car and did the Ho‘oponopono practice, I felt a surprising opening of my heart. I suddenly realized why my sister had been upset with me and I understood her point of view. As my anger dissolved, I went back into the house. What happened next shocked all of us.
My sister did a 180 and started talking with me. Just like that, out of the blue! And the tension between us instantly melted. I felt like a huge burden had been lifted and I could breathe again. I marveled at the fact that it didn’t take a drawn-out, awkward conversation to completely open up and change the relationship with my sister. I hadn’t needed to rehearse any lines to tell her or wait for her to “come around.” All I had to do was practice forgiveness, and everything shifted.
In one stroke, I became happier, my sister became happier, and so did everyone in our family by default.
I, for one, no longer had a big, dark cloud hanging over my head. And all of the energy I had fettered away on the issue between my sister and me was freed up, allowing me to feel so much lighter, so much more creative, and 100% happier.
This turned out to be even more of a miracle for our family, because months later our mother passed, and I can’t imagine how much more difficult that would have been had my sister and I still been estranged.
Maybe forgiving other people comes very easily to you. Maybe you actually tolerate a whole lot of bad behavior in others to begin with.
Now when it comes to forgiving yourself, that’s another story.
You can’t let yourself off the hook for that mistake you made long ago.
You judge yourself harshly if you fall off your diet.
You scrutinize every word you said after a date.
You feel so guilty for having yelled at your child.
Now, while it’s great to learn from your mistakes and do better, hanging on to self recrimination does you no good. You essentially stay stuck in the murkiest waters of the energy vibration scale, festering in unhappiness.
Maybe you even think you deserve to be unhappy for whatever you’ve done. So you keep punishing yourself by denying yourself forgiveness.
Yet happiness is everyone’s birthright, including you. And one of the fastest ways I know of to have that happiness, right now, is to forgive. It really is that powerful.
When I did Ho‘oponopono in the car that day, I freed both myself AND my sister from the shackles of unhappiness.
When you practice forgiving yourself and others, you touch so many lives, which increases your happiness even more.
Ho‘oponopono is a miraculous forgiveness practice, and in Day 8 of my video program 30 Days to a Happier Life, I’ll demonstrate exactly how to do it.
And while forgiveness is the happiness super power, the happiest people in the world also know that it’s the little habits we do every day that add up to feeling wonderful.
Having a “toolbox” of happiness habits means you never have to wait for external circumstances to change in order for you to feel good. You know that happiness is completely under your control, which is incredibly empowering and liberating.
That’s why, throughout your 30 days with me in the program, you’ll learn many different techniques, meditations, and practices that will get you happier. And when you’re happier, forgiveness is even easier!
On Day 11, you’ll learn about gratitude—the second fast-track to happiness. Yes, luckily, we get two! I’ll teach you my daily gratitude practice—and it’s one you can do with your children, too.
Combine forgiveness with gratitude, and you guarantee yourself freedom to be truly happy:Find Happiness
I know your relationships can heal through forgiveness, and that the happiness that results will make you a forgiveness convert if you aren’t one already.
With love and happiness,