Are you and your partner as intimate as you used to be?
If not, you might be having mixed feelings about this—sadness, guilt, frustration, maybe even apathy.
People make all sorts of excuses and have many reasons for not having sex:
I’m too tired.
We had a fight.
I’m just not feeling it anymore.
It takes too long.
My body just isn’t going there.
We need to work on the relationship first.
But do you remember how incredible it was when you and your partner were in the throes of early passion?
That feeling of never being able to get enough of each other.
The incredible amount of energy you had every morning, even if you had to get up early to go to work.
The surge of hope, possibility, and excitement you felt about yourself and your future together.
It was like taking the very best kind of drug.
Because it was. Connecting sexually creates energetic and physical changes in your body. The chemistry you felt was an actual change in your blood chemistry, which then sent messages to your brain. It’s not some kind of illusion. Through sex, your body gets pumped with what the ancients call vital life force—a powerful wellspring of health, vitality, and nourishment.
But here’s something else you may not have considered: Sex doesn’t just nourish your body—it POWERS romantic relationships.
And the inverse is true, too.
To put it simply: When you’re NOT having it, both your health and your connection with your partner may dramatically decline.
Here’s what I mean:
I’ve been a doctor and sex educator for over 30 years. I specialize in teaching people how to have better health through sex, and better sex through the secrets of ancient wisdom.
3,000 years ago, the Chinese became experts at documenting the effects of sex on physical and emotional health. They discovered how the vital life force that flows through the body is impacted by sex, and how this in turn affects all the organs in the body. Good, regular sex keeps your organs functioning properly. Conversely, a lack of sex—or unskilled sex—sets of a negative domino effect on your body.
According to Chinese Medicine, the liver controls your emotions, and the vital life force to the liver flows through the genitals. When the flow through the genitals is not supported through sexual stimulation, the congestion can create blockages which turn into physical problems.
The result? Health problems, fatigue, aches and pains, lack of concentration, mood swings, and accelerated aging COMBINED with reduced sex drive and desire for your partner, which then leads to relationship detriment.
It’s a nasty downward spiral.
When people don’t fully understand the connection between sex, health, and intimacy, they tend to make all sorts of mistakes, and then they experience symptoms they were wholly unprepared for.
A typical example I see in my practice is the couple who has not had sex for weeks, months, and even years.
If you fall anywhere on this continuum, I urge you to pay close attention to this message, because it could save both your health and your relationship.
It’s very easy to come up with excuses for not having sex. Again, when people don’t understand the real value of sex—and the multitude of benefits—they write it off when they’re not in the mood.
Think of it this way—if you thought sleep was optional and just a giant waste of time, and you didn’t know that sleep actually is an ESSENTIAL part of your overall health, you’d be inclined to cut back on it. Then, when you start experiencing fatigue, irritability, frequent colds, and weight gain, you might blame other things—the wrong foods, too much work, lack of exercise.
Yet fix the sleep, and your symptoms “magically” disappear.
You feel healthier and more energetic, and you have more motivation to eat better and exercise. You’re less crabby and more patient with your partner.
According to the ancient Chinese, the same can be said for sex.
If you don’t realize sex is a required component of a healthy body and a strong relationship, you’ll assume it’s nonessential, and you’ll let it go. You’ll set off a nasty downward spiral making your body and your health suffer.
Your energy level will drop, you’ll be more prone to illness and stress, and your sleep will become disrupted. At the same time, the connection with your partner will become increasingly fragile, and you’ll both blame the other for it—because you won’t know the culprit is a lack of sex.
This is where you enter the danger zone. Without realizing the impact of sex or lack of it, you ignore the magic bullet that can resolve the symptoms. You’re likely to go down a myriad of ineffective roads to restore your health and your love life:
You’ll focus on communication techniques. But no amount of communication techniques will work if you’re not connecting sexually as well.
You’ll throw yourself into work or hobbies. But with the imbalance of vital life force that sex facilitates, you’ll simply run yourself into the ground and feel empty.
You’ll try to get what you’re missing…with someone else. But if you don’t know how to have the kind of sex that sustains you and a relationship, you’ll eventually make the same mistakes.
You simply cannot afford to “let sex go.”
Our bodies were not designed for this, and our relationships weren’t, either.
It may seem that sex should just come naturally. That nature should just take care of it. That we should KNOW how to have good sex because we were born with genitals.
This is the case for other animals, but not us. If you want a committed relationship with meaningful sex that sustains your body, you need to reach for something higher.
You need to use your intellect to really understand why great sex is so important to your health and your relationship, and then you need to use that knowledge in the bedroom.
As you can tell, I’m extremely passionate about this. I’m convinced that good, regular sex can save marriages, and hence drastically diminish the number of children growing up in broken homes.
People often walk out on marriages that could have been made so much better—only to wind up as lonely singles, often for years.
It doesn’t have to be this way, not when the remedy is so easy and pleasurable!
This is my life’s work, and I’m eager to bring it all to you through my program Passion Play.
You don’t have to be one of the casualties. You can have all the energy, all the time, and all the desire you need to have an amazing sex life—one that fuels your body and powers your relationship. Through an in-depth eBook and video, I’ll teach you everything I know—the methods and techniques of the ancients that are so necessary for your health and your relationship:
Passion Play will teach you how to use sex as powerful medicine for your overall health and your unwavering commitment to each other:The Power of Sex
Not understanding the power of sex is like leaving one of life’s greatest gifts on the table. You’re depriving your body, your wellbeing, and the entire quality of your life.
P.S. If you’re not currently in a relationship, there are things you can do to have a good sex life right now—and also prepare yourself for experiencing your best sex yet. It has to do with getting your body and your emotional health in the best “sexual shape,” and I’ll explain it all here:Your Best Sex Is Yet To Come