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If You Feel Like Something’s Missing In Your Relationship, You’re Right—But It’s Not What You Think

You have a terrible feeling in the pit of your stomach. It’s about your relationship.

This feeling becomes stronger in the presence of couples who seem to have it better or more together than you do.

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When you hear your friend tell you that she can’t keep her husband off of her, you start counting the days or weeks since you’ve had sex.

When another friend posts a picture of the roses her man surprised her with, you feel hurt that the only time you ever get anything is on special occasions—and after you’ve dropped several hints.

When your neighbors ask you to keep an eye on their house while they go on another fabulous vacation, you’re painfully reminded of how you thought your life would look, but doesn’t.

In your mind, you’re convinced that other people have more fun, more spontaneous, more fulfilling, more connected relationships than you do.

In short, you have Relationship FOMO: Fear of Missing Out on the kind of relationship you wanted—and still want.

Too Good To Leave, Too Bad To Stay—Is It Ever Going To Go Your Way?

“I don’t feel like she’s in love with me.”

“I don’t feel like I’m a priority.”

“I can’t make her happy.”

These are the kinds of comments I have heard from thousands of couples over the past 40 years.

All of them feel disenchanted with their relationships. All of them have compared their own relationships with those of their friends and families.

All of them have concluded that they want MORE.

Yet, they don’t leave. And the reason why they haven’t left is because they think they don’t have a concrete reason to. In fact, they cite a myriad of factors that makes their relationship good enough to stay:

“She’s so good with the kids.”

“My mother loves him.”

“My neighbor would have her in a minute.”

“Well, he doesn’t beat me.”

From the outside, people would think everything is fine. And maybe it was at one point. But in your heart, it just doesn’t feel good enough anymore.

How Do You Quiet This Longing For MORE In Your Marriage?

If you’re at this stage of wishing you could jump out of your skin and into someone else’s relationship, chances are you’ve tried to make things better.

You’ve ordered the sexy lingerie.

You’ve tried talking about vacation budgets and destinations.

And you’ve tried to overlook the forgotten flowers on Valentine’s Day.

You’ve told yourself you should quit focusing on the negatives and start appreciating more of what you do have.

But then another voice in your head says, “Come on, this shouldn’t be rocket science. Surely two people who were once wildly in love can up their game.”

Maybe you’ve tried to communicate this to your partner, only to be met with a glassy stare, defensiveness, or a brush off.

You’ve tried to accept, to cope, to get on with it—to just stop wishing or thinking something’s missing.

But you can’t stop. Not because something’s wrong with you or your relationship—but because something IS truly missing. And it’s not what you think.

From Mission Impossible To Missing Link: The 3 Key Relationship Principles That Change Everything

I don’t need to know anything about your particular story or circumstances to know these three things:

  1. Whatever you’re unhappy about is not what you’re truly unhappy about.
  2. Whatever you think is missing is only a symptom of what’s truly lacking in the relationship.
  3. When we identify the true underlying problem, we open the doorway for the couple to have the relationship they were starting to think was impossible to create.
This is unbelievably good news for every couple!

It means that your longing for something MORE is actually a sign of an underlying (but VERY FIXABLE) relationship issue.

The even better news is that nearly every relationship issue can be traced back to only 5 underlying causes.

Each of these causes is something completely in your control to erase—but not by doing what you've been doing up until now.

There’s a reason not much has changed in your relationship, and why certain problems keep repeating, or just shape-shift—no matter how much you try to get your partner to change or even if you’ve tried to just “accept” the situation.

True change requires awareness.

You have to know what you are doing wrong to do something right.

If you don’t know what’s missing, how will you know what to add?

If you don’t know what a truly satisfying relationship looks like, how will you go about creating one?

We don’t miss what we never had.

My book 5 Forces Destroying Your Relationship You’ve Probably Never Heard Of will open your eyes to what is truly missing in your relationship.

First, you’ll finally understand what you’ve really been complaining about in your relationship.

In other words, what the hidden “flaw” is that is causing you to feel disenchanted, envious of others, and dissatisfied with your partner.

You’ll be surprised to learn that it’s not what you think it is, and therefore, your attempts at making things better have barely scratched the surface of what really needs to be addressed.

You’ll learn the underlying causes that account for nearly ALL problems, dissatisfaction, and the general feeling of lacking that you are feeling right now in your relationship.

I’ve made it as easy as possible for you by including multiple diagnostic quizzes so you know exactly which force or forces are operating in your relationship.

You’ll see why lingerie and candlelit dinners haven’t helped to inspire more passion, or why telling your partner (over and over again) how much you want him to prioritize your relationship hasn’t worked.

Then, I’ll give you a step-by-step roadmap to fix the underlying causes so that you can take your relationship from “Is this really all there is” to “I never thought we could have it so good”.

You’ll also learn:

  • How to harness the power of your own thoughts to improve your relationship, without needing to wait for your partner to change or even talk about what’s wrong.
  • A 20-point survey that reveals how secure you and your partner feel in the relationship, and what areas need work and which ones are working, so you can stop arguing about things like money, jealousy, and emotional blackmail.
  • The checklist of 32 boundaries of fidelity, and how using this list can help you set appropriate sexual boundaries, so you and your partner don’t risk weakening your relationship with small acts of infidelity that may seem harmless (to you).
  • 5 in-depth relationship system evaluation questionnaires to help you determine the current strength of your relationship, and where your weaknesses are, and what you can do about them.

And much more. It’s all here:

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I’ve seen far too many couples miss out on what can easily be theirs.

Having what you want can seem far out of reach, but that’s only because you don’t yet see what truly needs fixing and how simple it can be to fix it!

Once you learn what’s in 5 Forces, you’ll wish you had taken this step years ago, because you’ll realize it’s truly possible to have it all. You’ll have 7 full days to look through the book, and if you’re not happy with what you see—I’ll refund your money in full.

There’s no reason not to try, and everything to gain for your relationship:

Get Everything You Want In Your Relationship

Being “THAT” couple everyone envies isn’t luck of the draw. And it isn’t reserved for a select few. It’s what happens when the underlying relationship foundation is so strong, they don’t want to be anywhere else.

May you have an extraordinary day,

Pat Love

P.S.Research has proven that most couples break up because they don’t get help.

By having the courage and curiosity to explore relationship advice like this, you have already taken a great stride towards keeping love alive. In my eBook 5 Forces Destroying Your Relationship You’ve Probably Never Heard Of, I’ll teach you the very best of what I’ve learned in my 4+ decades of working with couples:

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