Does dating exhaust you?
You HATE waiting around, wondering if that guy will call, and feeling CRUSHED when he doesn’t. Or worse, feeling utterly USED when he comes on strong at first, then disappears after you sleep together. What’s that even about?!?
Maybe you’ve had a few relationships in the past, and you’re STILL trying to get over how and why they ended. You thought for sure you’d met The One, and were left heartbroken when it turned out he wasn’t.
It’s all so hard. You feel so much. You have high hopes and rock-bottom lows.
It’s no wonder you may be pondering giving up on trying to find true love, or haven’t made any effort in a while. The heck with it! (You think…) You’ll just work on yourself, spend quality time with your girlfriends and pets, advance your career, and you’ll be JUST FINE, thank you very much.
I mean, if it’s supposed to happen it WILL. And there’s nothing you need to DO. (Just like in the movies, right?)
At least, that’s what you tell yourself.
But the truth is? You’re lonely, and when you consider feeling this way for the rest of your life, it’s D-E-P-R-E-S-S-I-N-G.
The alternative, however, with all its hassles, seems waaay too daunting and just not worth it.
You’re not like other women, and you know it.
Other women don’t mind dating. They may actually THRIVE on all the attention, excitement, and adventure that comes with meeting new men. (Yeah, they’re aliens.)
You, on the other hand, aren’t so enamored by dating. And for good reason.
What should be fun and wonderful has actually been a GIANT pain in the you-know-what for you, especially if things aren’t going well.
See if you agree with any of these:
Profiles, texting, swiping—it’s just not for you. You’re more comfortable doing the “inner work” (vision boards, affirmations, therapy, candles, rituals, lists) than putting on a little black dress and going to the nearest happy hour—or, heaven forbid, online dating. It’s all too laden with booby traps of disappointment—like men who lie, sexualize you right away, or otherwise waste your time.
You’re on pins and needles with every interaction. (What did he mean when he said that? Is he into me or not?) You become obsessive if they don’t call or don’t ask you out. (It’s been HOURS since I sent that text and he’s obviously ignoring me or worse, he’s just TOYING with me!) You have a hard time speaking up and asking for what you want for fear it will “scare him away.”
Connection means everything to you, and if you feel it, you’re all in. Breakups or rejection leave you absolutely devastated—you’ll relive what happened in your mind for months and can’t understand why your friends get over guys so easily. You also stay too long with men you know deep down aren’t right. You turn over every stone to make a relationship work. When you’re out of stones, you’re out of faith. When you’re done, you’re really DONE. A guy has to really blow you away to win you back.
Bottom line—dating is a huge investment for you—of time, of energy, of hope. And if you haven’t had a return on that investment lately, it’s understandable that you’d want to cut your losses and just concentrate on the other—easier—parts of your life.
(Like getting that root canal, learning fluent Latin, or working on a cure for cancer ;-))
From what I’ve observed working with thousands of single women over the course of my 25-plus-year career as a Vedic astrologer and relationship coach, dating is tiresome for most women, at least until they find HIM. But it can be particularly challenging for “soulfully sensitive” women.
They aren’t as easy going as other women, who don’t seem to mind sipping coffee with new men a few times times a week or don’t get so attached so quickly if they feel that spark…
And because sensitive women feel more and suffer more, they too easily give up on love.
Which is a real shame, because soulfully sensitive women have so much love to give and are such a joy to be around.Use Your Sensitivity to Your Advantage
The world is a much better place because of soulfully sensitive people like you.
You’re highly creative. You’re authentic and have the ability to be present in a way that the rest of us achieve only if we meditate for decades. You’re REAL and you don’t apologize for it.
You have a lot of love to give, and when you’re in, you’re ALLLL the way in.
For these reasons alone, you make a great partner, but there’s more:
You’re sensual and sexual. A true goddess in the bedroom, and you’re super snuggly everywhere else…
You’re very conscientious and have high standards for yourself. You don’t like letting your partner down. You want to be there for those you care about and make sure they’re happy.
You’re very empathetic and highly intuitive. This means you make people feel heard and seen, which is glorious. You’re a natural counselor, able to see into people’s very souls. And your friends love you for it! (And your phone is likely ringing all the time with people seeking your advice…) Who wouldn’t want to be deeply known?
That’s why, if you were to give in to your dating fatigue and give up on love, it would be a crying shame.
The world needs better partners and happier marriages with thoughtful, generous people like you!
Any man would be lucky to be in a relationship with a woman like you. So don’t let a few bad experiences with a few bozos ruin it for everybody.
Let me show you how to believe in love again…
You don’t need to give up on dating and your dream of finding your life’s companion just because dating challenges you.
I want you to honor your unique nature AND have a man ADORE you for it, too!
That’s why I created my video program, Love and The Soulfully Sensitive Woman.
I know it can help you date better men, have more fun while on dates, and in this way, solve a BIG part of that pesky “dating fatigue.”
In the workbook you’ll get with the program, on page 17, I’ll take you through a short and easy set of exercises that will help you “vet” a man effectively—so you’re not endlessly getting your hopes up over men who turn out to be jerks.
You’ll also get a 2-point strategy on dating that will give you the courage and motivation to KEEP GOING when the going gets tough. Sometimes we all need a little pep talk that reframes what we’re experiencing and makes it easier to brush ourselves off and get back into the game, so to speak. You’ll get this in the workbook on page 20.
Then in the video program, in part 3, you’ll learn how to make the most of your sensitive nature, so a man can recognize you for the amazing woman you are, earlier on in the dating process.
Then, in part 4, you’ll get the “best dating practices” for soulfully sensitive women that include a way to gauge your feelings WHILE you’re out on a date, to see if you’re with the right guy. You’ll get the do’s and don’ts of getting intimate, communication, self-care, and more.
This program will give you the help you need to feel better about yourself and handle the challenges of dating and relationships with ease, courage, and peace of mind.Make Dating Easier and More Fun
It’s totally possible to enjoy dating AND honor your sensitive nature. You just need to learn how. And I can’t wait to share all of this with you.
P.S. Are you a Bambi or a Banshee when you’re upset, too passive and needy or too aggressive and angry? Many sensitive women are either one or the other when a conflict arises. But neither one gets you what you want—love and understanding. Fortunately there is a third option that’s much better AND will improve all your relationships.Learn a Better Way to Communicate