Chances are, you probably know at least one woman in your circle of family and friends who is happily sharing her life with a man she met online.
Maybe it’s your sister, or your co-worker, or a friend-of-a-friend.
They got online, and weeks later, they were giddily dating. A few months later, sure enough, they were falling in love and doing exciting things with someone special.
You hear about these couples who met online all the time. Many of them have cute anecdotes about their online love story. Some of them knew instantly when they met that they’d found The One.
Others, maybe not so much. Maybe it took them a little while to figure out that they made a great couple.
Either way, it seemed so easy for these women to find their man. And their love stories sound so natural and almost effortless. Instead of online dating being a horrible experience like it was for you’they can’t say enough about how great it is.
It all sounds so easy. For them.
Now here they are, planning amazing trips to distant places, having each other’s backs, moving in together, buying homes, or combining families.
Meanwhile, you’re still single, lonely at times, and wondering’
Why is online dating so easy for everyone else but YOU?
It seems that just about EVERYONE is using online dating to meet and go on a lot of dates, or find a partner and fall in love. It works so well for everyone.
You, on the other hand, can’t seem to get any traction with online dating to save your life. You’ve put in a LOT of effort.
You have a decent profile—even your friends said so—and you’ve carefully curated your photos to be the best “version” of you.
You’ve been very clear about what you’re looking for in a man, and you’ve been thorough in describing yourself, too. Yet still, most of the messages you get are from weirdos, jerks and scammers or men who are clearly not paying attention to what you wrote in your profile.
And all the good-looking, educated, and “normal” men? Apparently they want to date women who are much younger than you, or seem only interested in “model-types”.
You feel so deflated when you read their profiles. You know you’re not old and gross, but you sure feel that way when you’re trying to meet a good man close to your age, online.
Maybe you’ve been on a few coffee dates but were underwhelmed with the end result. You either didn’t feel a connection or if you did, the guy said he didn’t feel one with YOU.
And then there’s the ghosting! Don’t even get you started on that subject, right? It’s ubiquitous and it’s rude.
These are all reasons why, for you, online dating is a minefield of rejection and disappointment.
And why, if you’ve never done online dating, you are too intimidated to try it, because you suspect you’ll have that same rejection, or it will be too much trouble. Even though other women you know have met their partners online. Even though you’re not meeting single men any other way’
You wonder, “Is it me? Or is it men? Or is it the technology itself?”
You don’t feel as if you belong online. It’s obviously for younger, more attractive, more active, tech-savvy women with no problems or baggage.
You start to think there’s something wrong with you because you’re not getting any attention from normal, attractive men your age.
Or, you reject the notion that it has anything to do with you because it’s obviously the men your age who are screwed up.
The men online are either flakey, shallow and self-centered, or they’re creepy and not your type AT ALL.
Which brings you back to those happy couples who found each other online.
How did they do it?
Do they have something you don’t? Know something you don’t?
Are they just lucky?
Less discerning than you?
The answer is NONE OF THE ABOVE.
That’s because after going through my own challenging online dating journey, and then finally meeting my husband, PLUS my professional experience helping thousands of women find their Special Man using online dating, I can tell you this:
You don’t have to change who you are. You don’t need to lose 20 pounds. You don’t need to get into a time capsule and make yourself 10 or 20 years younger.
I didn’t! After 7 years of ridiculous failure with online dating, I figured it out and found the love of my life! I didn’t have to change who I was, or, what I looked like. And I definitely didn’t “settle.”
What was my secret? It’s the same “secret” those other women intrinsically know—the women who seem to have no problems finding the love of their life online. Which is this:
Being successful with online dating has nothing to do with your looks, your age, or how “picky” men are.
That’s right. What you need, girlfriend, are SKILLS.
Skills that will get you noticed without changing who you are or what you look like.
Skills that will get you an “edge” because you’ll be magnetic to men by “speaking their language”.
Skills that will put you ahead of the game because you’ll know how to share about yourself in a way that attracts the right men and sends the wrong men away.
Skills that allow you to overlook the things that distract you from finding Mr. Wonderful, and find all the kind, smart, commitment-ready men that most other women overlook.
Once you learn and acquire these skills, you, too, will be on your way to meeting the right man and having that enviable relationship you’ve been yearning to have for so long.
Most women I talk to that aren’t having luck with online dating also aren’t having fun with it.
hey think the entire process is a wasted energy suck and it makes them feel bad about themselves.
I get it! It can seem that way, especially if you’re convinced that there’s something wrong with you, men, and/or the technology.
Here’s the thing, though. I know for a fact that online dating can be fun, and you can meet a fabulous man who will make you happy, without sacrificing your sanity or self-esteem.
If you’re a woman over 40, your very best chance to meet quality single men is online.
And it can happen fast.
You can begin messaging with interesting, kind, smart men within just a couple days of learning those new skills, and start meeting them in person next week! These kind of results just aren’t likely if don’t have any expert training. And you’re certainly not going to get these results going about your normal day, working, commuting, grocery shopping or going for walks in your neighborhood.
Here’s what a few of my clients have experienced and had to say about my online dating coaching:
“Bobbi guided me through the whole online dating experience. I started meeting some quality, fabulous men for the first time in years and eventually met the love of my life! We’ve been together for over 4 years now and I couldn’t be happier. He’s my travel companion, lover, friend, confidant and so much more. Having Bobbi on your side is like having a secret weapon in your back pocket.” — Karen
“It was largely because of you and your guidance that I met my husband online. You guided our group through the process of clearly defining who we were and what we were looking for. With that clarity, I was able to push away the cobwebs and know with more certainty what was important to me.” — T.L.
And J wrote this:
“I admit it. I was a skeptic. I was convinced that no datable men would be interested in a “fluffy” 46-year-old career spinster’also that online dating was evil. But I was wrong, wrong, wrong. I finally went online. Bobbi practically had to drag me kicking and screaming. She wrote me a kick-butt profile, and I started getting emails within literally minutes after posting it.
Bobbi taught me how to identify the scammers and players and showed me the magic formula for writing emails that got responses that led to phone calls that resulted in dates. (Yep, real dates with actual cute men who have jobs.) Within the first two weeks, I had dates with three different men!
Take it from a former unhappy single girl who is now married to the love of her life! Bobbi Knows Her Stuff!!
Yes, and you, too, can meet a fabulous man and be having the time of your life a few weeks or months from now.
But only if you have the right mindset, approach and practical skills that make it possible for women in mid-life and beyond to find their life partners.
I’d love to help you, too, but since I can’t possibly work with every individual who needs this kind of help, I’ve partnered with Flourish so I can extend that help and guidance to as many women as possible.
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