Ready for some quick “hands-on” tips about what really works with men, and what doesn’t?
Good, because I’m going to share an email from a woman who has had success with my advice, and I’ll answer her message right here so you can also learn from my response:
“Two and a half years ago I was frustrated, sad and a little hopeless. I had yet another man leave me suddenly and I was so confused. I knew I hadn’t done anything to warrant his departure and yet I could not deny that the only common denominator in all my failed relationships was me! I had started to read your advice, and everything you said resonated: I really believed there were good men out there—after all, many of my friends had met and married good men—and I had finally come to accept that the only thing I could change was me. So I started to date using your advice.
Within a month I met Dale. Now, in hindsight I can see something which was not obvious to me then: when I met a man who was really open to a relationship, and who I might like, I wanted to run—made excuses as to why he wasn’t right or talked myself into moving onto a less available man. And of course this was true of Dale too. But I remembered what you said: “stop paying attention to how I feel and start paying attention to how he treats me.”
Never before have I received better advice! To make a long story short, Dale and I have been together for two and a half years and will be married in 3 months. I love him and am so happy and excited to start a new life and family together.
It’s not that I don’t think I wouldn’t have found love and marriage eventually on my own, but I do know that I would not have found it as quickly nor as painlessly without Evans help. And who wants to wait to be happy?? Evan, thank you for everything!”
You’ve made some great points here…
The first being, you are the common denominator in all your relationships, and this is actually a good thing. Because you’re the one you have any control over.
You can learn to date differently, relate to men differently, and even relate to your feelings differently, which is what my reader did when she decided to start paying more attention to the way Dale was treating her.
You too can decide to find and learn what actually works with men and start having new and better experiences. “Success,” if you will.
And you can do this almost immediately if you want to—if you find the right things to learn and start doing differently. What’s even more subtle yet fascinating is this:
When you “know” how things work with a man and know how to identify what kind of man is actually open to a healthy relationship… all of a sudden EVERYTHING feels EASY. There aren’t any surprises, shocks, or scary bumps in the road. And you can handle pretty much anything thrown at you and come out on the other side smelling like roses.
And next thing you know a man is begging YOU for a commitment (or even marriage in your case), instead of you chasing him.
On the other hand, when you don’t know how things work with a man, everything that happens can feel like it’s the start of a new disaster, and you end up anxious and worried all the time—which is NOT something that makes a man want to get closer to you.
There are two common sentiments I hear from women after they find my work:
That’s great, but it’s not enough. And I care enough to be really honest with you about it.
Here’s the thing…
There’s a kind of “process” lots of women who read my stuff and quickly have a “breakthrough” go through that keeps them from making their love lives as amazing as they can be.
It goes roughly like this:
And it all starts with knowing how to love yourself, attract a relationship-ready man, and create a love story to stand the test of time.
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