If you want to raise kids that become resilient, capable and confident adults (and not constantly second-guess your parenting approach in the process) then this is going to be the most important message you read all day – and will change the way you parent forever.
The very fact that you’ve landed on this page indicates that you’re already a good parent.
That you want to do what’s best for your kids.
You want to help them become happy, well-rounded, responsible and self-assured adults.
The problem is that some of the things you might do to parent your kids in the short-term – such as disciplining them – may actually work against what you really want for your kids in the long-term, such as them having the ability to regulate their emotions and succeed in life.
Here’s a common example…
If your kids are doing something you don’t want them to do, you may tell them to stop.
Or put them in a time-out.
Or threaten to take away privileges and then follow through if they persist in misbehaving.
Or yell at them to get their attention.
Or tell them they’re okay and to stop overreacting.
In the short-term, these tactics may work to get your kids to stop whining, do their homework, get in the car, share their toy with their sibling, or brush their teeth before bed.
In the long-term, however, these parenting approaches may actually be harming them.
Let’s say your child screams “no!” because she doesn’t want to leave the playground, so you keep giving her 5 more minutes, and then another 5, and another.
When you insist that it’s time to go, she cries and screams.
Her being upset is upsetting to you, so you tell her, “If we leave now, we can go get ice cream! How does that sound?”
She stops crying and gladly gets in the car because she loves ice cream.
In the short-term, you’ve avoided a full-blown meltdown by giving in to your child’s demands or by distracting her from her big feelings of upset by promising to get ice cream.
However, in the long-term, she’s failed to develop her “disappointment muscles.”
The minute she felt anything other than pleasure or contentment, you stepped in and “fixed” it for her.
She never has to deal with her discomfort at not getting what she wants all the time and right away.
She learns that whining, pouting, complaining are all valid forms of manipulating people to give her what she wants.
Therefore, when she grows up she can’t handle setbacks or blames others when things go wrong instead of taking responsibility for her life. As an adult, she has trouble regulating her emotions when things don’t go her way.
Here’s another example that you may relate to…
Your child forgets to bring their lunch to school.
You don’t want them to suffer with hunger all day so you take time out of your day to bring them their lunch.
You think you’re being loving and helpful. You believe you’re supposed to help your child when they’re in trouble or need something.
That’s what you think being a parent is all about!
And that’s why the next time they need help, you’re there for them.
You drive them to school when they miss the bus.
You play referee when they have a disagreement with their sibling.
You chew out their teacher for giving them an unfair grade.
You immediately replace their favorite toy when they accidentally break it.
You do this because you can’t stand to see your child struggle or suffer. You want to make him or her feel better and to “fix” the problem.
In the short-term, you accomplish that.
They don’t go hungry, they get to retake a test, they turn in their school project on time, and they don’t have to go without their favorite toy (or cell phone or video game, etc) for too long.
But what you’re actually teaching your child in the long-term is NOT that you’re a loving, caring, supportive parent.
You’re training them to not take responsibility for themselves, and you’re sending them the unconscious message that love means having someone do things for you.
Essentially, you’re training them to feel incapable. As adults, they may become entitled, narcissistic or unable to set goals and achieve them without a great deal of struggle or resistance. Or they will struggle with anxiety, unable to cope with everyday adult challenges and responsibilities.
These are just two of the most common – yet unintentional – mistakes most parents make, let’s take a look at the rest…
Perhaps after reading this, you’re thinking, “Yikes, I do all of these things… am I a bad parent?”
The short answer is: no, you’re not!
So drop the guilt right now – most parents unintentionally make some, if not all, of these 6 mistakes.
The thing is, you’re just doing what you think is correct and loving.
You probably thought you were doing the right thing by disciplining or punishing them, by preventing their disappointment and suffering, or by fixing things for them.
Plus, it’s very common just to repeat what you saw growing up and the way you were raised.
Or, you do the exact OPPOSITE of what your caregivers did if you didn’t like the way they raised you.
And let’s face it…
These types of parenting approaches are often considered normal, reasonable ways to get your kids to step up or behave.
When your kids don’t cooperate, or if they struggle, it’s easy to think that your kids are just being unruly, lazy or stubborn.
Or you worry that you’re being inconsistent, so you double-down on the punishments or step in and help them out even more.
The reason you think what you’re doing works is because most of the time you get the intended result:
But what you don’t realize is that in the long-term NONE of the above things predict a child’s future happiness or ability to thrive.
That’s why it’s critical to learn how to avoid the common parenting traps we ALL fall into at times so you can get the results you want NOW while also raising children who will grow up to be happy, capable adults.
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To create this program, we selected the experts we thought were the most qualified and experienced to talk about the biggest mistakes parents make and how to remedy them.
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Actionable tips and word-for-word scripts that will have the biggest impact on your children.
Dr. Jane Nelsen is a California licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and author or co-author of 16 books, including the Positive Discipline Parenting Tools, with her daughter, Mary, and her son, Brad.
She earned her Ed.D. from the University of San Francisco, but her formal training has been secondary to her hands-on training as the mother of seven, grandmother of 22, and 16 great grandchildren. She now shares this wealth of knowledge and experience as a popular keynote speaker and workshop leader throughout the world.
Mary Nelsen Tamborski, is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in San Diego. She is also a Certified Positive Discipline Trainer and Parenting Coach, a wife and mother of three young boys.
Mary is co-author of the “Positive Discipline Tool Card Book,” and “Keeping the Joy in Marriage Tool Cards” and eBook of the same title, with her mother, Jane Nelsen. She is a popular keynote speaker, Positive Discipline Trainer, and workshop presenter, and offers many Positive Discipline training throughout the world.
Christina McGhee is an internationally-recognized divorce-parenting expert, speaker, coach and author. She’s the author of the highly acclaimed book, Parenting Apart: How separated and divorced parents can raise happy and secure kids.
Christina has gained worldwide attention for her work with three British families in the documentary, How to Divorce Without Screwing Up Your Kids. She’s been featured on television, radio and in print around the US and abroad, including The Times, Parents Magazine, BBC, The Guardian, LA Talk Radio, GMTV, Fox Family, The Dr. Laura Berman Radio Show/Oprah Network and NYU Doctor Radio.
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Dr. Pat Love has been a marriage and family therapist for more than 40 years. Her She has authored/co-authored eight books; four workbooks; several online/video courses. Her best-selling book on parenting, Emotional Incest: When a parent’s love rules your life is about how to create a healthy, functional family and raise children who grow up to have healthy adult relationships.
Dr. Love has been Featured on Oprah, The Today Show and CNN and served as President of the International Association for Marriage and Family Counseling.
Shelly Lefkoe is co-founder and President of the Lefkoe Institute, which has enabled over 150,000 people to stop a wide variety of undesirable emotional and behavioral patterns. She’s the the author of Parenting the Lefkoe Way now Empowering The Next Generation, a seven-module guide to effective parenting, and co-author of The Chicken Soup for the Soul Guide to Effective Parenting. This book empowers parents—through their interactions with their children—to help those children form positive, rather than negative, beliefs about themselves, people and life.
Shelly is a frequent keynote speaker and leads workshops for parents and teachers, as well as workshops that train participants to use the Lefkoe Method. She has done numerous radio and TV shows and her work has been featured on the Today Show and numerous podcasts and docu series including the Broken Brain, Transcendence 2, and Little Humans.
Gervase is a Certified Mindset Coach for Mothers and Creator/Host of the successful event series and (upcoming!) podcast The Champagne Society™. Her work revolves around normalizing the struggle of motherhood, while also empowering mothers to work on themselves so they can pour into their families—sustainably. Her coaching programs help mamas step into the mindset of “Motherhood, and” instead of “Motherhood, or” while reminding them they’re not alone.
She’s spoken at multiple conferences held by Center for Women, RebelleCon, Charleston Moms Blog, and more. She has been featured on Lowcountry Live and in Skirt! magazine. Her articles have been featured on the Huffington Post, Best Kept Self, Charleston Moms Blog and more.
Gervase has been happily married for 10 years and has three children.
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Successful parenting takes a long view.
Rather than focusing on short-term “good behavior” – focus on raising capable, empowered kids who can successfully transition into adulthood.
What you model and teach, the beliefs you nurture, how you manage your emotions and validate theirs… these are some of the most precious, important gifts you give your kids – and yourself.
Look, as parents, you’re going to make mistakes. There’s no way around it.
But the good news is that mistakes are not failures. They’re a part of life.
– Instead of beating yourself up, value mistakes as opportunities to learn, for yourself and your kids
– Instead of punishing your kids or doing the work for them, teach your kids how to come up with effective solutions to make things right
– Instead of telling them they’ll be okay, show them how to persevere and feel strong even when things aren’t okay
You can show them that you cherish and love them AND give them the tools and skills they need to successfully navigate the world.
That’s the most important job in the world, and the most difficult. But it’s rewarding beyond measure.