It’s Time To Be Who You Really Are, Instead Of Who They Told You To Be.

We modern women are born with a mountain of rules and expectations coded into us.

Our families, our culture, the media, our religion, capitalism, the patriarchy…

So many of us think we “know” ourselves, but what we know is our conditioned selves; or “who we are supposed to be”. We are trapped by limiting beliefs, near-impossible lists of “shoulds” and internalized ideals of being a “good” woman / wife / professional / mother/ daughter / sister.

Gervase Kolmos

Inner Transformation Coach and the host of The Modern Phoenix Podcast

Centuries of both stated and silent “guidelines” of who a woman should be, of how a mother behaves, and of how we must show up at work to be respected.

The rules are rigid and often enforced.

We are praised for being selfless moms – but also expected to be.
We receive relentless societal messaging about what a perfect, ageless woman should look like, and we think this is normal.
We have to adopt masculine energy to manage all the shit that needs to get done in our lives – and then we are lionized for it.
We are sexualized, stalked, bullied, touched, marginalized, dismissed, “bitchified”, silenced, ignored…

It’s no wonder we have lost sight of who we actually are! How could we, given all the masks we wear to stay safe, to belong and to succeed?

But all this noise - from literally every facet of society - this noise isn’t TRUTH.

We aren’t who the world says we are. We are a kaleidoscope of traits, feelings, experiences, ideas, yearnings and complexity.

But until we can learn how to separate this external noise from our internal truth, we will stay trapped in this destructive cycle of pressure, discontent, performing and incongruence.

To change our lives, we must start with knowing ourselves.

Why Inner Knowing Is The Path To Authenticity, Freedom, and Feeling F**ing Good

When my clients come to me, they are all longing for “a better way,” but they don’t know what better looks like, or how to get there.

They did all the things they were supposed to do to be happy.

Whether that’s the job or the partner or the kids or the house or the money or the accolades… They’ve checked all the boxes they wanted to check and they’ve accomplished all the things they were promised would make them happy. Life is “good.” Some might even say “great.”

But they still feel a sense of yearning… of something is wrong-ness that they don’t understand and didn’t expect.

This feeling constantly crops up in small moments (when she says yes to something that she absolutely doesn’t want to say yes to) and in large ones (when she stays in a job she hates because she feels responsible for her team, or when she feels so alone in her marriage yet doesn’t want to rock the boat).

And the more she tries to “fix” the feeling, the bigger it seems to grow.

Because the typical way of “fixing” this inconvenient feeling is by doing MORE, performing better, silencing her intuition and trying harder and harder to conform to this standard of womanhood that absolutely no woman on earth can or should meet. “Achieving” this standard has devastating consequences no one warned us about and fewer still are willing to acknowledge.

And all this fixing? It pulls her farther away from her truth and aliveness. She trusts her soul’s wisdom less and less. She dismisses the signs in her body that she’s on the wrong path or needs a little more space and time for herself. She loses sight of who she is, and the confusing feelings grow and metastasize into anger, resentment, disappointment, fear, confusion.

The antidote?

Inner knowing.

Inner knowing is trusting yourself enough to take steps, make changes or walk a different path than expected because you know it’s right for you.

You know when you aren’t on the right path in your career, relationship, health, friendships, or life. And you know what you need to do to fix it (even if it doesn’t make sense to anyone else but you.)

It’s trusting the intuition about what to do next and trusting that you get to evolve and change … and then believing in yourself enough to actually make the shift.

It’s having your own back when you wobble and feel the ocean of emotions inside of you that are necessary to move from an existence of doing what you thought you should do to doing what you actually want to do.

It’s being able to mine even more wisdom and next steps from every wave of emotion that comes to clear away all the junk and things that aren’t you.

It’s feeling safe in your body and flexible in your nervous system, so that you can welcome the changes to your relationships, career, love life and womanhood that will inevitably follow.

With this inner felt sense of safety, you will trust and believe in yourself enough to shift your own paradigm 100 times over. #thephoenixway. Your new normal becomes an inside out approach to living, loving, relating, healing and choosing. Because all of these big and little changes will happen inside of you first, then manifest outside of you as you’re ready.

Inner knowing is like feeling the sun on your skin and allowing it to feel so good you fall asleep into a blissful dream state because of it.

It’s your head hitting the pillow every night with your soul and body thanking you for every hard and easeful thing you said yes to, because you knew, inside, it was the right next thing for you.

It sounds like thank you, I’m proud of you. I knew it. I did it. I’m doing it. I love you.

Introducing the Inner Knowing Course: A self-paced 8-module journey to unshakeable self-trust and soul-led intuition, with lifetime access to the full program recordings and resources.

I want to help you create this level of congruence, satisfaction, ease and peace in your life.

Where you are enough as you are. Where you can “be” and not have to “do” to be loved.

Where you design the life that makes YOU most happy, and cut out the draining, false, superficial, obligatory doing, performing and over-thinking that takes up most of your time and energy now.

Now of course the very best way for me to be your guide, mentor and support system in this evolution is through private coaching. But I realize not every woman has the time, energy, money and bandwidth to take that on.

So I spent the last 6 months dreaming - how could I help MORE women set themselves free from their conditioned minds and experience true freedom?

How can I make something accessible, affordable AND transformative – and in a format that can serve many women at once, and create transformative energy and lifelong soul shifts for us all?

And that’s where the Inner Knowing Course was born.

This program was originally delivered live to an intimate group of women, and now you get full access to the recordings, modules, and transformational tools that created massive breakthroughs for them — at your own pace, anytime, anywhere.

My community will tell you: I’m obsessed with delivering exactly what you need in the most potent, non-scripted and intuitive way I can—every time.

• A trauma-informed approach to self-acceptance, self-trust and self-knowing
• How to tap into your deep inner wisdom - your soul voice and body intelligence.
• Effective exercises, tools and techniques to help you instantly access your powerful intuition, so you can move confidently through life in alignment with your truth and identity, and connect to the version of you you’ve likely hidden from yourself and everyone else
• Clarity on who you felt you should be (and why) and who you actually are and resources that will allow you to be the latter more often.
• How to release control and pressure to do it “right”, and instead trust your knowing and intention will guide you through. (Even when things are really rocky, you’ll be able to meet these challenges with so much more calm and steadiness, because you finally trust yourself and your inner guidance.)
• Strategies for attuning to your pleasure, to regulate your nervous system and create an inner sense of calm in chaos
• Plus you will UN-learn the conditioning and narratives running your life (and get proven strategies to help you quickly identify the conditioned mind from the wisdom of your body and soul so you can drop out of the stories and into your inner knowing instantly and often).

And you’ll receive:

• Embodiment practices, journaling prompts, supportive podcast episodes to reinforce concepts and your own go-to list of resources to reinforce and support everything you are learning during our time together
• Live visualizations, grounding exercises and other helpful resources that you can rewatch and reference any time you need to reset, dial into your inner knowing, and release stress and pressure.
• Lifetime access to all modules, as well as several exclusive body-soul bonuses, including the “21 Days to Unfuckwithable Self-Trust Self-Hypnosis Track” and the “Be In The Moment” Hypnosis Track

This program isn’t about me piling more on more on more to make you think you are getting a lot of value, but really just adding to your overwhelm and dysregulation.

Here you will have an embodied experience of the difference between accumulating information as a false sense of security vs attuning to deep inner wisdom for an unshakeable felt sense of who you are, what’s right for you, and how to choose it.

It’s about an experience of deep inner-trust, the ability to act from it, and knowing how to resource and center yourself along the way.

The 8 Core Modules of “Inner Knowing”

Module 1

Introduction and The Phoenix Paradigm

(No one gets an A+)

We will kick off our journey together by looking at the map of where we are going, and get grounded in and excited by a new way of being, doing and self-tending. You will learn how the phoenix cycle of rebirth, evolution and growth supports you in your inner knowing. And together, we will set powerful agreements of how to engage with this program, each other and ourselves during this journey.

Module 2

Body And Soul

In this module, we will introduce powerful concepts and resources to tune into the ancient wisdom of your body and soul. You’ll learn how to read the subtle (and sometimes very very loud!) cues your body regularly communicates to tell you what’s “right”. And you’ll understand what your intuition really is, how it works, and how to harness it for big and small choices that can change your life and your experience of your life.

Module 3

The Pleasure Path

It’s time to learn how to feel good in your mind, body and soul and rewire your body and mind so you believe you GET TO (feel oh so good). I’ll equip you with powerful resources and rituals to connect with the natural intelligence of your body to find balance and pleasure.

Module 4

The Conditioned Mind

In this section, you’ll begin to track the differences in your system between “noise” and truth. You’ll start to separate internalized “shoulds” from embodied wisdom. You’ll learn the historical systemic context for some of the norms that keep you dysregulated, overwhelmed and confused. There will be exercises for you to rikmect upon moments that got you here and outdated beliefs that you are ready to burn. You will find proof that another type of information (wisdom) exists and has been flowing through you this whole time!

Module 5

Quieting The Noise

Once we understand the difference between noise and our truth, we need strategies to access our truth and dismantle the conditioning. This module will teach somatic and soul practices for quieting the noise of the conditioned mind and returning to your inner knowing. We will practice a group hypno visualization that integrates inner child healing, soul communication, body awareness and positive subconscious programming, followed by guided journaling to find our way through the noise to our truth together (and then on our own). We will begin to trust it.

Module 6

It’s All Me

Once we understand the difference between noise and our truth, we need strategies to access our truth and dismantle the conditioning. This module will teach somatic and soul practices for quieting the noise of the conditioned mind and returning to your inner knowing. We will practice a group hypno visualization that integrates inner child healing, soul communication, body awareness and positive subconscious programming, followed by guided journaling to find our way through the noise to our truth together (and then on our own). We will begin to trust it.

Module 7

Practicing Curiosity

Learn why curiosity is so much more powerful than judgement for a happy, fulfilled life. We’ll practice how to tell the difference in our body, and work together to apply it in our lives to rewire our ability to hold nuance and complexity (critical for mastering inner knowing over conditioned external knowing!).

Module 8

Choose It

Once we have access to our inner knowing, how do we act on it in our lives? We’ll go through the common barriers to this bold new way of living, and reveal concrete strategies for choosing it even when we feel uncertain, “wobbly” or scared. This is about taking what we now know, and living our life from this empowered place. Group exercises will support us in rewiring our systems to resource and build our lives within the supportive web of sisterhood vs the hyper-independence we’ve often been raised to idolize.

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In addition to monthly eye-opening interviews, we’ve got loads of surprises and bonus content to sweeten the deal (including these three gems in your first free month!)

If you love the program, do nothing. Every month you’ll receive another empowering interview for $29.97/mo. If you don’t want to receive any more interviews or bonus surprises, simply cancel (don’t worry – it’s super easy to do). You won’t pay a thing, and you’ll keep all the free interviews and bonuses, too.

Place your order and be watching Inner Knowing in a matter of minutes. Take a full 7 days to examine the program, go through the modules, do the grounding meditations and learn from the Rituals and Journals. See for yourself how much these simple insights and resources can transform the way you connect with your true self, trust your intuition, and start CHOOSING what you want in life.

If, at the end of the 7 days, you decide this isn’t the right solution for you, simply let me know and I’ll refund your investment in FULL, no questions, no hassle. This is my promise: you’ll find outstanding value from this program after putting it into practice for a full week or pay nothing!

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Free Yourself From The Pressure, Perfectionism, Pretending And Pushing Of Modern Life

When we are little, we are remarkably good at knowing what we need.

We stop eating when we are full (even if it’s potato chips or ice cream, though my kids really like to push this one).

We laugh when we are happy (not just because it’s expected).

We wear pajamas to the playground and don’t brush our hair for a week.

We run like wild and free maniacs, try new things every day, and feel all our feelings out LOUD.

But somewhere along the way, we learn who we are supposed to be. How we are supposed to act. How to be a “good girl”. How to be hot. How to get an A. How to get promoted. How taking care of others and putting ourselves last gets us praise.

We learn to live on a razor’s edge of approval-seeking, of achieving, of not dropping the ball, of staying skinny, of not disappointing / letting down/ upsetting anyone.

Our lives appear awesome from the outside, but our insides are a tangled mess.

We pretend. We push through. We perform. We make ourselves smaller and smaller to fill the spaces others ask us to fill.

And then we have ENOUGH.

We realize there’s a better way to live. A resourced, calm, confident, peaceful way.

Steady through storms because we trust ourselves, our instincts and our capacity.

Nourished and nurtured because our needs matter, and we know what they are and how to ask for them.

Aligned with our truth, so the people and projects we put our energy toward fill us back up again.

Perfectly imperfect, and ok with all of who we are.

If this sounds like how you’d like to feel every day - liberated, authentic and free, then I invite you to join my Inner Knowing Course.

Inner Knowing is the engine of transformation, and I’d be honored to be your guide to help you separate your conditioning from your truth, your “shoulds” from your wants, and your yeses from your nos.

And you can start NOW… It’s all inside… I hope to see you there.

I love you, let’s do this,

Not sure if this is for you?
Watch this short trailer from Module 1: