You’re about to learn the secrets to using the most powerful tool on the planet to find love, companionship and fun.
It’s a tool that nearly every woman knows about, but very few have the skills to use effectively.
It can be either a source of endless frustration, impatience and embarrassment or a way to connect with that person who will change your life forever.
If you’re single, you’ve probably already used this tool, or have at least heard a lot about it.
Internationally-recognized dating coach helping women over 40 finally find lasting love
What is it?
No, really. Online dating is the most powerful tool available to help women connect with, and get to know, men who are looking for a lovely, smart, grownup woman like you.
Right now you might be thinking, “I know online dating has been great for a lot of women, but it’s not for me!”
For you, online dating is like a giant maze with hundreds of choices…
But not many men looking for women who are like YOU…
With dozens of land mines you must negotiate after you’ve put yourself “out there” and bared your soul…
You’ve tried it, and hated it.
Maybe in your case, it’s a “necessary evil” to meet available men where you live, because you aren’t meeting any single men in any other way. Not in your neighborhood, not at work, and not through your friends and co-workers. You are surrounded by unavailable or married men in “real life” so you go online, where you know you can find single men.
The problem is, you still haven’t met your “One”, despite all the hours you’ve spent online.
Or maybe you tried your best to make it work for you, but you were so fed up with all the low-quality responses (or worse, NO responses), you gave up.
Maybe the guys who contacted you didn’t impress you at all. They were either creepy, unattractive, too old, too needy, or lived too far away.
And all the decent men—the ones with college degrees, eloquence, and good looks—passed you by.
You may have experienced spurts of luck, and went on a few first dates, but then… crickets.
The guys you liked didn’t follow up to see you again, or they disappeared, never to be heard from again.
Or they told you you’re not their “type”, and you couldn’t help but wonder if that really meant you were too old, or too fat, or maybe too smart and successful?
You suspect that some men are intimidated by your accomplishments and independence.
Regardless of WHY it happens, feeling that rejection is icky…it sucks.
Even—or especially—at our age!
Which sometimes lead you to wonder, should you even be putting yourself “out there?”
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Not to mention, you have so many questions about online dating that it makes you feel silly and out of touch.
What are the rules?
What do I say in my profile to attract the right guys?
Should I email first?
What do I say?
How do I get him to notice me and email back?
Who calls whom?
Is texting ok?
How do I get him to go faster or go slower?
How do I tell if he’s the real deal or a player, or worse, a scammer?
How do I say ‘no thanks?’
When you consider your experience with online dating, all you can think of is:
You look at hundreds of profiles and say NO because the men are unattractive, uninteresting, illiterate or only seem to want much younger women.
Or you take the time to write a profile your girlfriends think is awesome, post it, and… nothing happens.
No responses, no messages, no quality men contacting you.
Profile after profile, email after email, “swipe” after “swipe”, “match” after “match” you’re disappointed and, well… pissed off. So, no, no and no!
Why bother with all this work and emotional risk if you can’t make a connection with any smart, interesting, attractive men?
You’ve tried meeting them ‘organically”, through friends, clubs, coffee shops, the grocery store…
No good looking, age-appropriate, single men to be found!
So you go back online, try a new app, put up new profile photos, message a dozen more attractive men, only to start the disappointing cycle all over again!
No wonder when you think of doing online dating again, all you can think of is, “No! Not doing that again.”
Or, maybe you’ve never tried online dating, mostly because you’ve heard too many stories from friends about how difficult it is to find a good man, or how little luck they had.
I get it. I know how demoralizing it can feel. You want to find love, but the one resource you have to meet single men sucks, and doesn’t work for you.
I’ll tell you what I’ve told hundreds of women like you. Women who were once mired in the loneliness and frustration of being single in mid-life, but are now happily sharing their life with a wonderful man:
Online dating isn’t the only way to meet men, but it is the very best chance you have at finding a good man with whom to share your life.
Especially if you’re over 40.
Which is unfortunate, you think, because you haven’t had much success with it, if any.
What if I told you that there’s something else going on with you and online dating that you haven’t considered—something that, if you knew about it, could change everything for you?
First, let me state the obvious: There’s nothing “wrong” with you.
And there’s nothing “wrong” with men, or online dating itself.
After working with thousands of women, both in groups and one-on-one, I can tell you that the reason you haven’t connected with a quality man online isn’t because the men who go online are all perverts, losers, scammers or jerks.
It’s not because you’re too old, too heavy, or not attractive enough.
It’s not because you’re too smart and successful and you intimidate the men who only want “arm candy.”
Or because you simply don’t have time to devote to the process, which, in your opinion, is a giant time-suck.
Your lack of success with finding quality men through online dating has everything to do with your beliefs and false assumptions:
About the process of online dating,
about men, and
and about yourself.
Let me repeat that again, because it’s so important:
Once you bring those false assumptions and beliefs to light, and embrace the truth, your entire experience of online dating will change dramatically.
No more rejection, no more disappointment, and you will finally be able to connect with more quality men than you ever thought possible.
That’s why it’s critical for you to read this next section and see if any of it resonates…
Chances are, you think you already know why online dating isn’t for you.
Why it’s probably fabulous for people in college, for example, but not for grownup women like you.
I’ve already hinted at some possible reasons above.
You believe online dating is a waste of time… that all the men your age want to date women half your age… that it’s risky, because you might hook up with a psycho… that it’s a good way to feel terrible about yourself, because men often say mean things online.
Who needs that, right?
But what if I told you that from my professional experience coaching thousands of women one-on-one and in workshops over the last ten years, NONE of those things are true.
The most common thing I hear women saying is that they believe men only want to date younger women and that is simply NOT TRUE. It’s a myth. (I explain more about this further down in this article.)
The bad experiences you’ve had with online dating are actually CAUSED by the choices you make because of your beliefs, not the REASON you formed those beliefs in the first place.
In other words, the things you believe about online dating aren’t inherently true.
It’s only because you believe they’re true that you make choices that lead you to experience these negative outcomes.
And for women over 40, this is especially challenging because you’ve probably spent YEARS entrenched in these beliefs, and maybe even finding lots of “evidence” for them (because we tend to easily find evidence for what we believe to be true—a phenomenon called confirmation bias.)
Here’s something that may surprise you:
The women who are most successful with this tool and who find the love of their life do so—not because they’re lucky—but because they didn’t start out with these beliefs.
Or, they decided to change their beliefs, and it changed the way they showed up online. Which led to them finally finding the right man, and creating a meaningful relationship with him.
Why do you believe this? Because you’ve read profiles where a guy states that he’s looking for a woman who’s much younger, or slimmer, more outdoors-y, athletic, or whatever.
You, however, are much closer to his age. Maybe you’re overweight. You’re more into books and movies than going to the gym. In other words, you don’t think he will like you.
So you automatically dismiss him.
But here’s the reality: For men, the idea of meeting a much younger woman who’s a size 2 who wants to date him is just a fantasy. Nothing more.
Would he say “yes” if one actually came along and wanted to date him? You betcha.
Look at it this way. Women have their fantasies, too. Wouldn’t we love to meet a man who’s 5’10” or taller, who’s rich and gorgeous, too?
Probably, except you have to admit, that the chances of meeting a man that checks all those boxes are slim.
Just because a man has a silly fantasy doesn’t mean he’s not a good man.
You’re limiting your options if you automatically dismiss or reject men based on this false belief.
Look, every woman has something about herself that she think excludes her and makes her un-dateable. But here’s the beauty of dating at our age:
The men are SO much better than when we were in our 20s. They are wiser, more mature, more successful, and have learned a LOT in their life about how to treat a woman in a love relationship.
Plus, they really want a real, solid relationship. They aren’t into playing the field or hooking up as much as younger men.
Grownup men want a woman like YOU!
There’s nothing wrong with women making the first contact. In fact, a substantial percentage of women I’ve helped find love using online dating have made the first move…and the men have taken it from there!
But more to the point, you need to know that older men don’t chase, not like men in their 20s. Older, confident, accomplished men have “been there, done that” with the chasing thing, and the potential for rejection as well as the challenge of the chase, just doesn’t turn them on the way it used to.
They’re much less into making bold, first moves than they might have been when they were younger.
It’s not that men won’t make the first move. They usually do. But if you see a man you’d like to meet and he hasn’t yet found you…why wait!
All you have to do is give him a clear, concise signal that YOU are interested, and he’s likely to take the lead from there.
Why would you want to post your profile and wait? And wait, and wait?
When you believe that a man MUST make the first move online, you are closing yourself off to so many opportunities. And that’s what using online dating is all about: creating opportunities to meet single men.
I get it, you’re old-fashioned. That’s ok. There’s a simple, subtle way to make the first contact that welcomes a man to take the lead. You won’t be chasing. You’ll be taking control of your dating life!
Millions upon millions of women have gone online and HAVE found love, *including myself …but you probably know the reality: the majority of people who try to use online dating end up quitting before they find love…sometimes before they even have a few good dates!
The reason so many women give up is simple: No one ever taught them how to use technology to meet men!
I’ve been teaching mature women how to find love for over a decade, and it’s heartbreaking to know that before they finally find me, so many spectacular women have gone through so much disappointment.
Maybe your story is different because you’ve never tried to use online dating to help you meet men. When I talk to women who’ve never been online it’s usually because they hear the STORIES from the women I just described!
But look… using online dating is not like ANYTHING you’ve ever done before, right? Well…with no training or preparation, how could anyone know how to do this WELL until they’ve had some help?
Whatever your story, it can be different now. Because NOW you’re in the right place to learn how to use the power of the internet to meet your loving lifetime partner.
Here’s a radical thought: There’s no such thing as rejection in online connecting, because it’s NOT dating.
If you’re not “dating”, it can’t be personal. You’re taking something personally when it has nothing to do with you.
Online connecting is simply a means of meeting potential dates and men who MAY be a match — but you don’t know YET.
Not until you meet him and get to know him, in real life.
Therefore, if a man ignores your profile or your message, tells you that you’re not his type, or flat out says something nasty, who cares?
He doesn’t know you, and you don’t know him.
Many women make the mistake of “falling” for a man’s profile, which, if you think about it, is silly. It’s just a picture with a bunch of words. It’s not a real person.
Stop treating it like it’s something it’s not, and you won’t get hurt.
Like you, I was a competent, independent, accomplished single woman. And I had a mantra that maybe you can relate to:
Hey…I don’t NEEEED a man, I just want one!
When I was 44ish, after working with a therapist and doing some soul-searching, I finally understood what the mantra truly meant:
You see, when we NEED something, the pain of not getting it can be devastating. But when we just WANT it, we can be okay if we’re forced to live without it! Choosing to believe that we only want love, but don’t need love gives us a “get out of jail free” card.
If you have this underlying belief, you are probably creating a self-fulfilling prophecy. You’re subconsciously sabotaging your chances so you can say, “I told you so!”.
Believing you don’t need a man gives you an excuse not to try, or to keep repeating unsuccessful experiences and finding someone else to blame for our alone-ness.
It sends a signal to the good, available men: “Don’t waste your time. Because I don’t NEED you.” The grownup, good men you meet can sense when you’re not 100% committed or ready for an authentic connection. They won’t call again, or they won’t even respond to your profile if they sense that “I don’t need a man” vibe in it.
The more you’re invested in a belief…
The more you are likely to find evidence that it’s true, or that you’re “right.”
Let’s say you believe that men are only looking for younger women. As a human, you naturally are going to look for evidence that you’re right.
The first profile you see of a man whose preferred age range includes younger women will reinforce your “truth”, piss you off, and compel you to subconsciously LOOK for those guys because you’re compelled to find further evidence to support your belief. You stop noticing all the quality men (and there are thousands of them) that are looking for mature, relationship-minded women like you.
You overlook those men because you’re still focused on the ones whose profiles match your beliefs. Or, you don’t bother to message men who have a younger preferred age range, worrying they’d reject you.
This leads to negative outcomes, such as not meeting the kind of men that interest you, getting no responses, or meeting men who aren’t a good fit.
Then you say, “I knew it! I was right! Online dating sucks. It’s not for me, because men only want younger women.”
And so on.
This can go on for YEARS.
How do I know?
Because it happened to me!
I know what it’s like to have online dating knock the crap out of you.
Here I was, a 40-year-old woman who somehow “forgot” to have a romantic relationship (while I was busy hiding in my career). I wasn’t meeting any single men at all.
So I got online.
I spent 7 years online dating and on off before I met Larry, the man I married.
7 LONG, frustrating, lonely years.
I made all the mistakes.
I thought men only wanted younger, dumber, slimmer, “model” types and I was not that…
So I posted pictures that hid my body and compensated by letting men know that I was a smart, independent and busy businesswoman who didn’t have time for nonsense. I didn’t want them to know that secretly, I ached to have a man by my side.
I pretended to not “need” a man, so when no man wanted me I could also pretend that I didn’t care.
My inbox went empty for months at a time.
I said yes to the few users and losers who did contact me because I was desperate. No one else was interested.
Once in a while I’d fall in love with a profile and get the nerve to write these guys…the few responses I received were of the “no thanks, you’re not my type” kind. I couldn’t figure out why they didn’t see our potential! I ended up feeling so rejected and worthless.
There were years when I didn’t go on one single date. It was awful.
I finally went to see a therapist (there were no dating coaches back them) to help me figure out what I was doing that wasn’t working. She helped me realize that it wasn’t about the men being jerks or online dating sucking…it was my attitudes, beliefs and assumptions that were standing in my way.
After figuring that out, I consulted with a coach who helped me learn the practical skills that got me noticed online in a way I hadn’t been noticed before.
I learned that I had to tailor my profile and email messages to account for the fact that men in their 40s and 50s were different from the men I remember dating in high school and in my 20s and 30s.
I was way off in believing that men didn’t want a woman like me. They so did! I just had to do a much better job of showing them who I was!
Once I changed my approach and mastered the practical skills of online dating, I met Larry very quickly.
He was someone I would have formerly rejected or dismissed, but after shifting my perspective, I was open to seeing where things would go. Our first date was pleasant, and this time, there was a second date. And a third, and fourth…
We got married within 6 months of meeting.
The skills and strategies I implemented once I let go of my old beliefs, got serious, and invested in the process, worked for me, and I found the “One” rather quickly.
Since then, I’ve been teaching these same skills and strategies to my clients, both one-on-one and through seminars and workshops, and have seen them fall in love with men who adore them, desire them, and feel lucky to be sharing their lives.
It just takes realizing the truth about men, online dating, and your expectations, and then learning the practical, easy skills that help you get noticed, meet the right man and get his attention.
Isn’t it time for you to take a fresh look at online dating as the powerful tool that it is?
Whether you’ve been online for years or haven’t ventured online yet…
Whether you are newly single or widowed, or have been single for years (like I was), my wish is for you to see this tool for what it is:
The very best way for women over 40 to connect with grownup men who share their vision for a relationship, meet the one man who will adore them and want to share a life with them.
It can be a powerful tool for you, too, but only if you have the right mindset, approach and practical skills that makes it possible.
That’s where my online video program, From Online to In-Love: A Step-by-Step Guide to Finding Love After 40, comes in.
I developed this program after more than a decade of teaching these skills and perspectives to literally thousands of women—some as young as 40 and some well into their 70s.
These are women, who, like you, were either disillusioned or disappointed with the complexities and frustrations of online dating. Maybe they were afraid to try it because they heard horror stories from women who had been online and were doing it wrong (and therefore were getting bad results).
Or, had never tried online dating. Or had recently divorced or widowed and were back in the dating world for the first time in decades.
I offer tools, skills and perspectives that are specifically tailored to address the unique challenges of online dating for women after the age of 40.
You’ll learn the truth about grownup men, what they really want, and how to find and attract the “good” ones that can make wonderful partners.
I’ll teach you about specific age and gender differences not even on your radar, which will help you stand out from other women online—because you’ll communicate with men in a way that resonates with them.
You’ll come to understand that you need not change who you are or give up where you want to live in order to have that soul-satisfying relationship—because I’ll show you how to set clear boundaries with men who live too far away, aren’t a good fit, or are just looking for a “hook up”.
Your anxiety over the “dangers” of online dating will disappear after you get the facts and learn how to easily and quickly spot scammers and “fake” accounts that especially target older women. No more getting sucked in by flattery and fantasy, only to be taken advantage of, just because you’re a certain age or financially more established.
I’ll show you specific strategies to write a magnetic profile your perfect guy won’t be able to resist, and how to scan men’s profiles for dealbreakers and red flags, as well as “diamonds in the rough”.
You’ll open your eyes to the possibilities that you never saw before, and you’ll be so pleasantly surprised to learn how many great men there are out there that you dismissed before, for the wrong reasons.
I’ll show you how to take charge of your online dating experience, instead of just sitting around waiting and waiting…and getting no action. There’s a special way to do this without seeming needy, desperate or “chasing” men…but it’s so alluring to the right man.
You’ll start to feel hopeful, confident and competent in the realm of online dating.
And when your light bulb goes on (and it will!) you’re going to be stunned at how simple it is and how many good men are looking to be a woman’s great grownup partner, and will show up for you AND turn you on. (I mean you need a guy you want to kiss, right?)
I’m talking about the men who are passing you by right now. Or the ones you fantasize about meeting, if only you had the nerve to get online.
No more “online dating sucks.”
No more “there are no good men” mantra for you, sister.
This new INFORMATION, this new TRUTH and these new SKILLS will set you free…and get you the meaningful relationship you want.
You’re going to know how to take the shortcut through the online dating maze, and avoid the pitfalls that 99% of women endure…because they don’t know what YOU are going to know.
No more avoiding or hiding from this modern dating tool, which is your best chance at meeting someone.
Every day will be just one enjoyable step closer to your ultimate goal…a lifetime of love with a man who will light you up, have your back and add a new dimension of joy to your life.
From Online to In-Love is both a practical “how-to” program on how to navigate online dating AND a deep dive into your personal obstacles, so you can reframe your approach and start having fun and meeting great men.
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From Online to In-Love isn’t just about using the internet to find love. It’s about getting in touch with your best and true self, including what you have to offer, the kind of man you really want, and the relationship you envision for your future.
It’s about being unabashedly and unapologetically real—without hiding, pretending, or contorting yourself in order to impress a man you don’t even know.
It’s learning that loving yourself as a woman and taking care of yourself is the way to find a good man that deserves you.
It’s about ridding yourself of old and no-longer-true beliefs about yourself and men. As I say: “Thank goodness we’re not 18 anymore!” It feels so empowering to have life experience, maturity, and wisdom borne of struggle and achievement.
You see, online dating doesn’t have to feel confusing and overwhelming, once you learn the in’s and outs. Dating past the age of 40 can be about having fun, feeling safe, confident, in control— because you are growing, learning new things, and making better choices.
Here’s something to take away, if nothing else: You have the same life skills, knowledge, traits, etc. that led you to success in other parts of your life, so there’s no reason to think you won’t have that with online dating. You already have all the gumption and resilience you need to be successful at this…it just takes getting over your limiting beliefs and then applying some easy-to-learn practical skills to the process.
Do yourself a HUGE favor right now. Give yourself permission to want and need a fabulous man in your life, because you deserve love and you deserve to be happy. Tell yourself it’s not a weakness to admit you need a little bit of help, and accept that help when it is offered.
You’re a strong, smart, amazing woman with so much love to give. The right man will thank his lucky stars to have found you.