Do you have a beautiful dream for your love life?
Maybe you imagine falling in love with someone who fulfills your soul’s destiny. You picture an adoring partner in your life who supports you, adores you, and thinks all those quirks of yours are charming.
This person cheers you on, encourages your endeavors, and offers you a comforting hug when life throws you a curveball.
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Together, you have grand adventures and travel to far away places.
Maybe you create a family together.
Your home is a welcoming place full of laughter and love where you create happy memories that last a lifetime.
There is always respect and kindness, but urgent passion, too. You can’t get enough of each other.
You feel so lucky to get to grow old with your beloved. Each day brings an unfolding of possibility. You’d don’t feel alone in the world.
Imagining this now, you may feel wistful and a little sad.
You may think, “Other people get to experience this, but not me. I’m not lucky in love.”
That’s because if you’re reading this, chances are your love life has been filled with more disappointment, pain, and regret than cherished memories and devoted love.
Lovers have left you. Dates have ghosted you. You’ve gone on what seems like a hundred dates, but you can’t find anyone who “fits.”
You’re getting older and time is running out. You wonder if you blew it a long time ago and your chance at that kind of love has passed.
If you’re nodding your head, you’re not alone.
When I was about 40 years old, I doubted that getting married or having children was in the cards for me. I had spent 20 years in and out of dozens of relationships that had gone nowhere. I had resigned myself to the idea that my fate was sealed and that I was probably going to be alone forever.
Until the day I had a radical insight that led to a transformative process that changed everything for me.
I’ve since helped hundreds of thousands of single people transform their love lives using the very same process, and I know I can help you, too.
It IS possible for you and it CAN happen, even if you’ve done “everything,” are feeling utterly hopeless, and have even decided you’re done trying.
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At this moment, you may doubt that love is even possible for you, because you’ve had so many setbacks and disappointments.
You have your theories about how you’ve gotten here.
Maybe you think that men don’t care about you. That you’re too old, too heavy, or not smart enough.
That the women you want don’t want you. That they want someone richer or better looking.
Perhaps you feel you’re not good enough and that other people who do, are simply better than you in some way.
Maybe, like many singles today, you believe real love is virtually impossible in today’s dating culture. There are so many choices—too many—and forming a meaningful connection with a person is challenging when the IDEA of someone “better” is always a swipe away.
You think there are no good men or women left out there. Either they’re all married, in a relationship, or emotionally unavailable.
Maybe you’ve been ghosted way too many times. It’s left you resentful and numb.
Or, you’ve been intimate with partners who were just in it for casual sex and not interested in anything more meaningful, which has made your longing for real love even more acute.
You’re stuck in this space of thinking you’ll find love when…(you lose weight, you pay off your debt, you get a better job, you can afford a sexy wardrobe).
You may even know the historical source of your psychological issues and triggers, but that still doesn’t keep you from being hurt and feeling frustration and despair over your love life.
Whatever reason is YOUR reason, you’re left discouraged about the prospect that you’ll ever fall in love, get married, and create a family.
Meanwhile, there’s unspoken (and sometimes spoken!) outside pressure from society, friends, and family to settle down, find a boyfriend/girlfriend, get married, get partnered.
It’s really taking a toll on you.
Your energy around your love future may be at rock-bottom.
If you agree with any of this, there’s something important and life-changing you MUST know right now.
Something that puts the power to create love and attract your soulmate squarely in YOUR hands.
NONE of these reasons: the lack of available partners, the crazy modern dating culture, your weight, your age, your life circumstances—are why you’re not finding your soul mate.
ALL of these are outside factors that have little to do with why you’re still alone.
In fact, you could be surrounded by eligible, single people and you could be the most physically-desirable person around, be well-off and have everything going for you, and you would likely STILL be struggling in love.
Because if your focus is solely on the things over which you have little or no control, and you’re relying on those things to work in your favor, it can make you feel powerless and maybe even a little bit broken.
When you shift your focus to what you CAN control, and what IS within your power, you can generate a consciousness that will make you MAGICALLY MAGNETIC to love.
How do I know?
Because when I was in my late 30s, I had everything going for me, too. I was attractive, slender, educated, charismatic, and outgoing. And I had no trouble meeting men and getting dates. There was no shortage of men as far as I was concerned. But I still wasn’t finding the kind of love I wanted.
It wasn’t until I radically shifted my focus and stopped looking for things to change “out there” that I created the consciousness within MYSELF that allowed me to get exactly what I had longed for my entire adult life.
Ever since I was a teen, I had wanted to find a partner and have a family. Yet, year after year, it never really happened for me.
I was a petite, olive-skinned, attractive woman with long, unruly hair. I had no trouble getting a man’s attention. However, I had this pattern of being with unavailable men…married men, engaged men, alcoholic men, commitment-phobic men, workaholic men.
The men I would fall in love with didn’t want to—or couldn’t—commit to me. Meanwhile, I was approaching my late 30s. At least once a week, it seemed, someone would ask, “Why haven’t you ever gotten married?” I’d answer that I hadn’t found the right person yet. Privately, I began to wonder if I wasn’t the right person, if there was something wrong with me.
Betrayed by love, I decided to dedicate myself to making a difference in the world instead. I went to school to become a psychotherapist.
On the surface, I appeared to be successful. Underneath, however, was the deep angst of not having a soul mate in my life. I could almost hear the tick-tick-tick of my biological clock.
Men came and went in my life. The ones who were actually available seemed to slip through my fingers like water.
By the time I was 40, I was pretty resigned, giving up hope that love was ever going to happen for me. And so I carried on fulfilling my own drive to make a difference in the world.
I’d go to work every day and counsel others on how to have great and fulfilling relationships while coming home to an apartment I shared with my cat, night after night. I would just feel so sad.
One day, after yet another disappointing love affair with a man who had no intention of creating a committed partnership with a woman, I called up a dear friend. She asked me a question that startled and irritated me.
I sat with her question for a while. Was I really committed to being alone? I had to admit to myself that something about the idea resonated as true. I loved my freedom. I loved not being accountable to anyone. I liked not being emotionally dependent on anyone, either, which made it less likely that I would be left vulnerable and hurting when someone left.
I realized in that moment that for 20 years, I had it all wrong. I wasn’t alone because men were jerks or commitment-phobic. I wasn’t alone because there weren’t enough good, emotionally available men out there. And I wasn’t alone because somehow I wasn’t good enough to be chosen.
I had been the author of my love life.
*I* was the reason I was still alone!
That was an earth-shattering revelation and change of focus for me. It was then I decided to do something radical.
I set an intention to be engaged by my 42nd birthday.
I had no prospects, no boyfriend, not even an inkling of how I was going to make it happen. And I had 8 months to do it.
I spent 20 years looking for love unsuccessfully. What was I going to do different this time?
Well, I wasn’t going to run out there to “look” for it. Knowing that I had authored my own story of aloneness, I knew I needed to go within. I would devote myself to clarifying and releasing all my INNER obstacles to love. I would dedicate myself, not to finding The One, but to becoming The One. I would become the woman I needed to be in order to bring an amazing man into my life.
I began to organize my life around the fulfillment of this intention.
A few weeks into the process, I thought about a man I met six years prior named Mark. We were attracted to each other, but it didn’t go anywhere. From time to time, I’d wonder how he was doing and if he had met anyone. As serendipity would have it, we met again, on a dating website this time! It was a small miracle that among thousands of profiles I happened upon his.
This time, when we reconnected, I was no longer unconsciously blocking love. I was fully ready to receive it.
Mark and I were engaged two months before my 42nd birthday, married the next year, and I gave birth to our daughter the following year.
With his love, support, and belief in me, I was able to encapsulate and share with the world the breakthrough I went through that led me to finding the love I’d spent my entire life longing for.
And it all starts with recognizing the two main ways we sabotage ourselves in love…
Most of the time, when we struggle to find love, there are stories that we tell ourselves as being the main reason why we’re struggling.
We think, “Others are lucky in love, but not me.” Or, “Everyone always leave me.” Or, “The people I like never like me, and the ones who do, I don’t like.”
(In my case, it was “I’m all alone in life. No one has my back.”)
These stories sap us of optimism and motivation as we sink into the mire of hopelessness.
As much as these stories cause us distress, we become attached to them. We cling to them like they’re mantras. They’re the default place we go within ourselves whenever we experience a new disappointment in love.
Yet, what would you say if I told you that you yourself were the author of that sad story?
And that YOU are the one holding the power to evolve beyond it?
To access this power, you’ll first want to understand the two ways you’re sabotaging yourself in love:
When you are overly identified with your story, you then start to behave in ways that validate that story, therefore reinforcing it and giving it more power each time. This is a totally unconscious process.
For example, let’s say that you secretly believe that no one cares about your feelings or needs. You then begin to organize around the feelings and needs of others. You even become disconnected from what you really want and need, to the point that you don’t even know what you feel, let alone are able to express it to others.
You therefore don’t give anyone a chance to care for your feelings and needs because they have no idea what you need, since you’re not communicating it with them! In this way, you “train” others to be selfish or narcissistic, and end up feeling victimized by that.
You may think that you attract selfish or narcissistic partners, but the reality is that you are the source of not getting your needs met, because you’re not acknowledging or expressing your yourself in a way that would allow others to care about you!
Or, another example: let’s say you don’t feel good enough. To compensate, you then overgive to try to prove your value. Perhaps you go to bed too quickly with dates, give more of your time, affection, and attention in order to try to get to them to like you. Then when they ghost you, or don’t want to pursue a real relationship with you, you end up feeling even more undervalued, and the cycle starts all over again, and gets reinforced each time.
Your unconscious, habitual patterns of behavior are creating the very conditions that reinforce the story, which leads to the negative consequences that keep you in pain, confusion, and disappointment in love.
In other words, you are the source of your painful patterns in love. Which is ultimately good news because again, that means that you can change them.
A lot of us have connected the dots between the things that happened to us in childhood and the problems we’re having in our close relationships today.
However, most of us are stuck in the analysis of why what’s happening now is happening, and the earlier origins of our problems and triggers.
Despite knowing the origins of your issues, you may still feel powerless to make the changes you want to make in your life today.
What actually evolves your stories and allows you to make changes? Taking full responsibility for how you show up inside of your story.
For example, if you felt neglected as a child because your single mom had to work because your dad left the family, you may have internalized that as you are all alone because everyone always leaves you. Now, as an adult, you may have a tendency to emotionally withdraw at the first sign of any kind of challenge or difficulty. This withdrawal signals to the other person that it’s time to leave.
It’s not what happened when you were a child that is the problem, but the choices and behaviors you’re making today that are causing your struggles. In this example, choosing to employ a pre-emptive strike against being rejected (by rejecting first) causes the relationship breakdown.
These are the two ways that the stories we cling to sabotage our love lives. We get into habitual patterns of behavior that actually propagate the stories, or we blame our psychology but feel powerless to make meaningful changes in our lives.
Don’t underestimate the power of your story to influence your love life.
These two ways we sabotage, or block love, are so ubiquitous that most of the time, we can’t even see what we're doing.
We fail to recognize or see the ways we’re sabotaging ourselves, so we keep engaging in the habits: behaviors that perpetuate our sad, painful stories.
If you are emotionally anchored in a false story, you will unconsciously show up in ways that will co-create evidence of that story.
But when you become anchored in your new story in a way that you can feel in your body—where you feel the truth of your own value, your own power, your worthiness to love and be loved—that your feelings and needs matter, that you are an important person, that you are more than enough to be deeply adored and loved just for who you are…
The good news is that I’ve developed a program that can help you create that new, empowering story and awaken you to that story in ways that create a true shift in how you organically show up in life.
It starts with being able to identify your specific painful and disappointing patterns in love, and beginning to understand yourself as the source of your old patterns.
Once you understand how these patterns have been happening through you and not just to you, you’ll be able to access the power you’ll need to finally break free of them and be liberated to create a deep and lasting happiness in love.
When you unpack and see clearly the habitual and unconscious ways you’ve been relating to people to whom you’re attracted, you can experience a RADICAL transformation and a shift in what’s possible.
I know this, because I experienced it first-hand.
It’s what led me to start writing my bestselling book, Calling in “The One” in 2001. I wanted to share the same process I went through, and had used with my private practice clients, to help anyone, anywhere, who was struggling with and unhappy with the course of their love life.
Since 2001, I’ve taught this process to hundreds of thousands of people around the world through seminars, workshops, and teleclasses with tremendous success. I’ve received countless letters and emails from people all over the world telling me what a great impact this radical approach had in helping them let go of the past and find love at last.
That’s why I’m proud to introduce the Calling in “The One”: The Keys to Creating a Miracle In Your Love Life program, which features the most laser-focused, transformative shifts you must make in order to create a miracle in your love life.
I personally narrate this 4+ hour course, which is accessible to you 24/7, allowing you to go through it at your own pace and at a time that’s convenient to you. You can go through the teachings and exercises if you only have 15 minutes a day, or you can do longer sessions if you feel inclined. Each of the four Classroom Sessions is accompanied by an emotionally grounding meditation that you can listen to again and again, to help you stay on track to create that miracle.
This course also comes with a digital copy of the Love Miracle Journal, which is a step-by-step tool to guide you through this powerful process by providing you with profound clarity around your patterns, intentions, and vision. By doing the practices in your Love Miracle Journal, you will begin to understand how you’ve been generating the exact opposite of what you want, and be liberated to begin doing things differently moving forward to create the happy, healthy love you desire.
Both the course and the Love Miracle Journal will help you identify the false beliefs that have been sabotaging your ability to create love—specifically, those beliefs that have to do with your sense of self—and learn the step-by-step pathway to evolving beyond them.
You’ll see clearly the subtle and habitual ways of relating that have unconsciously been causing you to duplicate old painful patterns in love—and learn how you can graduate from those patterns forever.
It’ll help you examine the resentments you might be carrying that have been keeping you energetically connected to the past, and help you to release them in order to move forward with an open and trusting heart.
You’ll begin to understand some of the old agreements that have been keeping you stuck…and make new agreements that will set you up to be fulfilled in love.
You are going to learn how you can transform toxic relational dynamics and generate greater wellbeing and health in all of your relationships. You’ll learn how to use the power and potency of your desires to make yourself magnetic to love.
You’ll also learn the secrets of becoming magnetic to the love you are looking for.
Finally, you’ll also be able to take bold actions to break up your old story and to start making your true story your new home base from which to create your life.
With everything you’ll learn, you’ll become unstoppable on your journey all the way to the arms of your beloved.
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Imagine celebrating your next birthday in a place that speaks to your soul, blissfully in love and in the arms of your beloved.
This isn’t just more wishful thinking, this is a real possibility! When you awaken out of the trance of unconscious patterns and obsolete and damaging old agreements, it can happen faster than you imagine.
Breaking free of the patterns is the key…
You see, patterns are like vortexes of energy. There’s always a pull to repeat them. But once you make these hidden patterns and agreements conscious, you then give yourself the gift of choice. You’ll be able to show up differently, change your dance steps, and make different choices that will break the pattern and bring you into the realm of possibility.
With what you’ll discover and learn from the Calling in “The One” program, you’ll lift yourself out of resignation and pain and get inspired to create a profound shift in your love life.
You’ll be able to let go of who you’ve known yourself to be in order to make space for the possibility of who you might become: someone who is cherished and adored. No longer will you be on the sidelines of a life you’ve envied and longed for. You’ll be front-and-center, living and breathing the dream of love.
Lots of love and bye for now,